Two people that have unresolved issues (usually) cannot get together and live a blissful life. And worst yet, many people in these situations think that the unhappy home is not only "just the way love goes", but also worth it. All of the bickering, disrespect, physical fights, it's all worth the price paid, because many times hurt is what both parties know and expect from life situations.
I'm here to tell you that is NOT healthy. It's not love. It's not right.
If you find yourself in an emotionally, psychologically, physically abusive cycle; waiting for and anticipating your next bout of trauma, get out and get professional help.
Leave the "fixing people" to those that actually get paid to do it. Clear your life of dusty spirits. Of any beings with a dusty outlook on life. And most importantly, love yourself enough to be done with unnecessary trauma and drama.